bryanhowie
from FW, ID is reading East of Eden. Steinbeck is FUCKING AMAZING.June 1, 2012 - 6:41am
@Avery, I thought the whole point of flirting was to get skewed.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 6:44am
Flirting can be a harmless, fun little time waster. Also, I've gotten a lot of free stuff by flirting. Can't argue with results. Free stuff that I would be happy to share with my husband (if I had one, but I don't. I mean, legally I do. But you know).
bryanhowie
from FW, ID is reading East of Eden. Steinbeck is FUCKING AMAZING.June 1, 2012 - 6:45am
We have much different goals.
OtisTheBulldog
from Somerville, MA is reading The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot DiazJune 1, 2012 - 11:05am
I am a big proponent of women using their womanly powers to obtain things. Like at concerts, use them as fullbacks to push your way through the crowd. The sea will part for a pretty girl. Sure, you may not always be the recipient and sometimes you're just the means to an end - but you have to pay into the system.
Jack Campbell Jr.
from Lawrence, KS is reading American Rust by Phillipp MeyerJune 1, 2012 - 11:43am
"Flirting can be a harmless, fun little time waster. Also, I've gotten a lot of free stuff by flirting. Can't argue with results. Free stuff that I would be happy to share with my husband (if I had one, but I don't. I mean, legally I do. But you know)"
Somewhere, deep down, that Starbucks barista hopes that giving you a free mocha will get him laid in the future. It's all about investment strategies.
Still, I have no problem with it. Flirting makes everyone feel good, as long as it doesn't result in hurt feelings and broken hearts. It's easy for harmless flirting to be lead to miscommunication.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 12:06pm
I have something else to add. The girl at the department store is not hot for you. It is literally her job to smile and be nice to you. Quit being so creepy with her.
Jack Campbell Jr.
from Lawrence, KS is reading American Rust by Phillipp MeyerJune 1, 2012 - 12:07pm
The same holds true for strip clubs, although I think they expect creepy.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 12:13pm
Yeah. I'd say the strippers invite the creepy a bit more than the girl at Macy's. But basically it is the same, yes.
OtisTheBulldog
from Somerville, MA is reading The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot DiazJune 1, 2012 - 12:15pm
The same with bartenders and waitresses.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 12:28pm
I worked in customer service jobs for 11 years. At first I was really upbeat, but it really started to wear on me, how every single guy seemed to think I wanted to go home with him just because I smiled. So then, I started being mean to them. Just really stand-off-ish and cold. But eventually they took that as a sign that I was playing hard to get, or flirting in code. So then I started just telling people, "Hey, I'm not in to you." Then they started getting really defensive and angry. So then I went back to smiling.
That was partly fictionalized.
GaryP
from Denver is reading a bit of this and thatJune 1, 2012 - 12:33pm
But women still like when guys don't look them in the eyes, right?
Jack Campbell Jr.
from Lawrence, KS is reading American Rust by Phillipp MeyerJune 1, 2012 - 12:34pm
I don't know, if you told me you weren't in to me, I might take that as a defensive mechanism that means you really were in to me, but were afraid of your feelings. I would try that much harder to make you see the light.
I can't imagine being a woman, honestly. I've known so many guys who had twisted, warped views of what a woman was trying to tell them. Especially if a woman was just trying to be nice. Being nice seems to get you nowhere.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 12:42pm
"I can't imagine being a woman, honestly."
It's mostly awesome.
Jack Campbell Jr.
from Lawrence, KS is reading American Rust by Phillipp MeyerJune 1, 2012 - 1:10pm
Of course, you get free stuff.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 1:11pm
Yes. And backstage at concerts.
Moderator
Utah
from Fort Worth, TX is reading Lonesome Dove by Larry McMurtryJune 1, 2012 - 2:07pm
And pregnant.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 2:15pm
Not if you use birth control like a good little slut.
bryanhowie
from FW, ID is reading East of Eden. Steinbeck is FUCKING AMAZING.June 1, 2012 - 2:17pm
I love that sentence.
PandaMask
from Los Angeles is reading More Than HumanJune 1, 2012 - 2:19pm
^Exactly.
OtisTheBulldog
from Somerville, MA is reading The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot DiazJune 1, 2012 - 2:19pm
^^^^^ If drug companies haven't hired you or paid you a lot of money for marketing, they should. Feel free to list me as a reference, furnished upon request.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 2:23pm
Clearly this is my winning quote of the day.
OtisTheBulldog
from Somerville, MA is reading The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot DiazJune 1, 2012 - 2:46pm
I want to steal it (with your permission). I want to use it in coversation tonight. I'm not sure how well it will go. I'll let you all know.
Matt Attack
from Richmond, Va. is reading As I Lay Dying, William FaulknerJune 1, 2012 - 3:16pm
Didn't we have this conversation on Valentines. Fuck buying women stuff or drinks or something. I work hard for my money and tell them as such and get THEM to buy me stuff. Or at least split things. I have to be serious on the way to being serious before my wallet will open. The only exceptions are actual dates and even then it's iffy.
underpurplemoon
from PDX
June 1, 2012 - 3:45pm
The last time I truly asked a girl out, she said that she was out of town. Now, I'm just asking everyone out because I'm wanting to get more "asking out" experience.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 1, 2012 - 4:08pm
Otis, you can use it in conversation, but you must tell me the results.
underpurplemoon
from PDX
June 1, 2012 - 4:37pm
Matt, if you were a woman, I'd marry you. I'd totally split the costs on everything. Occasionally treat you out to a favorite meal. Wait, I think I'm flirting. I don't know these things. Am I flirting?
Matt Attack
from Richmond, Va. is reading As I Lay Dying, William FaulknerJune 1, 2012 - 4:55pm
I am flattered young lady. Thank you. Flirting is more about body language, attitude or how you say things as opposed to what you say. That was flirting though.
Also, dont get me wrong, once I'm with someone, I like taking care of them or doing nice things, it's just a matter of getting to that point.
underpurplemoon
from PDX
June 1, 2012 - 11:26pm
Also, dont get me wrong, once I'm with someone, I like taking care of them or doing nice things, it's just a matter of getting to that point.
I think this is where I get in trouble. I'm nice to everyone. In fact, I went above and beyond the call of duty yesterday for work for a customer. I made a special trip. Sighs...I'm super nice to everyone. People aren't used to this niceness. Of course, I do have a temper sometimes when it's that time of the month. I keep my cool like 95% of the time. Plus, with my martial arts discipline, I don't pick fights all that often. I think I like to try to protect people like a superhero or something. I need sleep. I am rambling.
Matt Attack
from Richmond, Va. is reading As I Lay Dying, William FaulknerJune 2, 2012 - 1:52am
Nothing wrong with being nice. The best thing to do is let people earn the right to get that side of you, in the same way you earn that from them
Also, everytime I see your screen name I think of this.
underpurplemoon
from PDX
June 2, 2012 - 12:43pm
ROCK LOBSTER! Maybe I should change my name back to VerboseLobster?
underpurplemoon
from PDX
June 2, 2012 - 12:49pm
Matt, I work things differently than most people. Innocent until proven guilty. Trust until one loses my trust. Sure, I don't mind earning things. Life is just too complicated in general to keep track of who I trust, but I guess I do that naturally. Maybe it's the customer service sense in me.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 2, 2012 - 2:24pm
"Innocent until proven guilty"
As in, I'm not doing anything wrong until I get caught. Right?
underpurplemoon
from PDX
June 2, 2012 - 4:39pm
As in, I'm not doing anything wrong until I get caught. Right?
I really need to work on my examples. I'm confusing everyone. "Innocent until proven guilty" is like I trust people until they give me a reason to not trust them anymore. Then again, people give this vibe sometimes right off the bat. Generally, I am a trusting individual.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 2, 2012 - 5:16pm
Iknew what you meant, I just wanted to give you a hard time. You're fine.
underpurplemoon
from PDX
June 2, 2012 - 7:28pm
Iknew what you meant, I just wanted to give you a hard time. You're fine.
In case you're wondering, I'm in the dictionary twice...dork and gullible.
avery of the dead
from Kentucky is reading Cipher SistersJune 3, 2012 - 10:55am
Hah - that was funny. No, it's hard to understand tone over the internet.
@Avery, I thought the whole point of flirting was to get skewed.
Flirting can be a harmless, fun little time waster. Also, I've gotten a lot of free stuff by flirting. Can't argue with results. Free stuff that I would be happy to share with my husband (if I had one, but I don't. I mean, legally I do. But you know).
We have much different goals.
I am a big proponent of women using their womanly powers to obtain things. Like at concerts, use them as fullbacks to push your way through the crowd. The sea will part for a pretty girl. Sure, you may not always be the recipient and sometimes you're just the means to an end - but you have to pay into the system.
"Flirting can be a harmless, fun little time waster. Also, I've gotten a lot of free stuff by flirting. Can't argue with results. Free stuff that I would be happy to share with my husband (if I had one, but I don't. I mean, legally I do. But you know)"
Somewhere, deep down, that Starbucks barista hopes that giving you a free mocha will get him laid in the future. It's all about investment strategies.
Still, I have no problem with it. Flirting makes everyone feel good, as long as it doesn't result in hurt feelings and broken hearts. It's easy for harmless flirting to be lead to miscommunication.
I have something else to add. The girl at the department store is not hot for you. It is literally her job to smile and be nice to you. Quit being so creepy with her.
The same holds true for strip clubs, although I think they expect creepy.
Yeah. I'd say the strippers invite the creepy a bit more than the girl at Macy's. But basically it is the same, yes.
The same with bartenders and waitresses.
I worked in customer service jobs for 11 years. At first I was really upbeat, but it really started to wear on me, how every single guy seemed to think I wanted to go home with him just because I smiled. So then, I started being mean to them. Just really stand-off-ish and cold. But eventually they took that as a sign that I was playing hard to get, or flirting in code. So then I started just telling people, "Hey, I'm not in to you." Then they started getting really defensive and angry. So then I went back to smiling.
That was partly fictionalized.
But women still like when guys don't look them in the eyes, right?
I don't know, if you told me you weren't in to me, I might take that as a defensive mechanism that means you really were in to me, but were afraid of your feelings. I would try that much harder to make you see the light.
I can't imagine being a woman, honestly. I've known so many guys who had twisted, warped views of what a woman was trying to tell them. Especially if a woman was just trying to be nice. Being nice seems to get you nowhere.
"I can't imagine being a woman, honestly."
It's mostly awesome.
Of course, you get free stuff.
Yes. And backstage at concerts.
And pregnant.
Not if you use birth control like a good little slut.
I love that sentence.
^Exactly.
^^^^^ If drug companies haven't hired you or paid you a lot of money for marketing, they should. Feel free to list me as a reference, furnished upon request.
Clearly this is my winning quote of the day.
I want to steal it (with your permission). I want to use it in coversation tonight. I'm not sure how well it will go. I'll let you all know.
Didn't we have this conversation on Valentines. Fuck buying women stuff or drinks or something. I work hard for my money and tell them as such and get THEM to buy me stuff. Or at least split things. I have to be serious on the way to being serious before my wallet will open. The only exceptions are actual dates and even then it's iffy.
The last time I truly asked a girl out, she said that she was out of town. Now, I'm just asking everyone out because I'm wanting to get more "asking out" experience.
Otis, you can use it in conversation, but you must tell me the results.
Matt, if you were a woman, I'd marry you. I'd totally split the costs on everything. Occasionally treat you out to a favorite meal. Wait, I think I'm flirting. I don't know these things. Am I flirting?
I am flattered young lady. Thank you. Flirting is more about body language, attitude or how you say things as opposed to what you say. That was flirting though.
Also, dont get me wrong, once I'm with someone, I like taking care of them or doing nice things, it's just a matter of getting to that point.
I think this is where I get in trouble. I'm nice to everyone. In fact, I went above and beyond the call of duty yesterday for work for a customer. I made a special trip. Sighs...I'm super nice to everyone. People aren't used to this niceness. Of course, I do have a temper sometimes when it's that time of the month. I keep my cool like 95% of the time. Plus, with my martial arts discipline, I don't pick fights all that often. I think I like to try to protect people like a superhero or something. I need sleep. I am rambling.
Nothing wrong with being nice. The best thing to do is let people earn the right to get that side of you, in the same way you earn that from them
Also, everytime I see your screen name I think of this.
ROCK LOBSTER! Maybe I should change my name back to VerboseLobster?
Matt, I work things differently than most people. Innocent until proven guilty. Trust until one loses my trust. Sure, I don't mind earning things. Life is just too complicated in general to keep track of who I trust, but I guess I do that naturally. Maybe it's the customer service sense in me.
"Innocent until proven guilty"
As in, I'm not doing anything wrong until I get caught. Right?
I really need to work on my examples. I'm confusing everyone. "Innocent until proven guilty" is like I trust people until they give me a reason to not trust them anymore. Then again, people give this vibe sometimes right off the bat. Generally, I am a trusting individual.
Iknew what you meant, I just wanted to give you a hard time. You're fine.
In case you're wondering, I'm in the dictionary twice...dork and gullible.
Hah - that was funny. No, it's hard to understand tone over the internet.