Thanks to all of you for the great support. E-hug. I feel like we are becoming a little Thunderdome family (hopefully we'll propagate a bigger one.)
Liana's story was my favorite too. I hate looking at my own work. It always feels like when the guitar gets too close to the amp and you feel like plugging your ears and retreating to a corner with a bottle of wine (or Jack) and bundling your knees to make it more ergonomic to rock back-and-forth and whimper.
@Avery and David: I don't know if that abstinence thing is a myth or not, but I can only say that from my own personal experience it does build some drive. It's like the unused drive gets relegated to your brain and fingers. Just think about how you feel after, like a bomb went off and a bunch of energy was released?
A well-known writer I know said that sometimes when she's writing about sex the scene takes on a life of its own and she has to continually restrain herself and tell herself 'Oh no you don't, hands-off'. Sometimes she said she practically needs a chastity belt to keep from blowing all of that inspiration.
She said you know when you haven't been with anyone in a while, but haven't done anything yourself to remedy the situation and everything and everyone in the world makes you think of sex? She said that those are all things that you wouldn't give a shit about if you'd just had a good rogering (she's British). She said, you're a guy, you know that moment the vas deferens close and a relaxing emptiness replaces that engrained drive to procreate?
Well, she said, now imagine your readers. Do you want your readers to feel like they've just had sex? Do you want them to feel like their vas deferens have closed? Or do you want them seeing the sex in everything as they read so they just keep getting hornier and hornier on their way to climax?
I just listened to her British accent and nodded. I also asked her what she was currently working on and if she had finished it yet.
